Monday, December 5, 2011

A quilt in remembrence . . .

Back at the end of September a coworker (and friend of mine) came to my office and asked me if I sewed quilts for people? to sell? No. no. no.  I shook my head, no.  I have made a few small baby quilts for expectant mothers at work and when a very good friend retired I put together a signature quilt for her, but I don't take on commisioned work.  I have been asked before and always answer no.  Why not?
  • Because I don't believe my quilting skills are professional enough to take money from others for them. I still send out my own quilts over a twin size out to a professional longarm quilter to be completed. 
  • Because I don't have enough time to sew for myself. 
  • Because I am slow, even the most simple quilts take me months to complete.
  • Because I don't think most people who do not quilt understand the time and expense that is put into a quilt.
  • And last - because I don't want to disappoint anyone. I would stress about this last point A LOT.
Despite all the reasons listed above, my friend told me she had a good friend who had been diagnosed with cancer in August and that she (the friend with cancer)wanted to have a quilt made for her husband, for Christmas.  A Tshirt quilt.  Well, after I heard her story I said okay, have her bring me the tshirts and I will try to get it done by Christmas for her.   She brought me two small bags of tshirts - she had pinned little notes on them suggesting layout and could I please use all pieces, (some of the shirts had designs on the sleeves). Her only other request was that I put a red back on it.   As I started to work on stabilizing the tshirts and cutting them square I prayed for her and I realized she really had put some thought into the arrangement of the quilt top.  A couple of weeks passed and my friend from work came in one morning and asked me if I had started the quilt.  Yes, I told her, I worked on it all weekend.  She began crying and told me that her friend had passed away the previous Friday.  I felt so sad for her.  After hugging her and telling her how sorry I was I asked her if she wanted me to finish the quilt? Yes, she said, please finish it for her husband.   Well, I finished it this past weekend and it turned out very nice.  Nothing fancy, I just quilted it in the ditch around all seams.  Her husband did not know she was having this quilt made for him.  I believe she would be happy with how it turned out and I believe God sent me this heartfelt request from a woman dying of cancer to teach me a lesson. 
They belonged to an organization called B.A.C.A.  Bikers against Child Abuse.  I googled them on the internet. This organization (from what I read) provides a kind of big brother figure in the lives of abused children.
God Bless.  Bernie


  1. A beautiful last Christmas gift for this gentleman. He'll cherish it as long as he lives. You did a beautiful job on the quilt and I'm glad you stepped out of your comfort zone to do this. This man will treasure the thoughfulness of his wife and never notice any small mistake (if there is any) on the quilt.

  2. sometimes the spirit just moves us to do a project that ends up being a blessing to others and ourselves. glad you took this on.

  3. This is such a beautiful story. I know in my heart that you will be blessed and what a loving gift for her husband. I too don't do commissioned quilts for all of the same reasons that you posted. You are to be commended for doing this...I know it took a lot of strength.